Sooner or later your friends leave the city. They take on townhouses and bedroom communities, renovations and babysitters. They say, “we found a great place in the mountains, man,” and you nod congratulations. It may take as long as the drive upstate, or until the county road yields to a gravel one, but you will come to see that a home is different from an apartment, a place to live is different from a place to stay.